Real Friends
Here’s a few lessons that I have learned recently, and I want them written down so that I remember them. If you think this is about you, before you scream and yell at me, stop and take a minute please, and ask yourself why you think it’s about you.
A real friend is there for you when you have a hard time. They take the good with the bad. For every time you share a laugh with someone, there is going to be at least one time where you just can’t laugh, no matter how much you want to. A real friend understands this, and will stick by you even through the tears. Even when the tears come hard and fast and they can’t understand you through the sobbing. They’ll still be there to listen – no matter how hard a job that is. Maybe they’ll even “bubble” you. 
A real friend understands when, sometimes, things just don’t work out the way that you want them to. Plans get made and sometimes have to be changed or canceled. Your friends may be very, very high on your priority list, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t certain things right up there with them on that list, or maybe even, slightly higher. If plans get changed or canceled for something else that is important, too, a real friend is understanding, and doesn’t make you feel guilty or judge or condemn you for it.
A real friend doesn’t say one thing to your face and another behind your back.
A real friend worries about you when you are sick. Not just because of how it might affect them, but because they actually care about you.
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Needless to say, Shelby… but you’re the perfect example of a real friend! Sometimes, I’m not
I try to be, though, honest!
Comment by Boon — 04/09/2010 @ 4:00 am
Boon, you’re a real friend, and you do a great job. I wouldn’t trade you for all the tea in China, or all the money in the world, and so on and so forth.
I’m not always the perfect example of a real friend, though, either. Sometimes I fuck up, sometimes I make mistakes, but … I always try to be willing to listen when I’m told I’m making mistakes. I always try to fix them when I know I’ve made them. And the thing is, that’s all I really want to be given in return.
Lately, I’ve felt like I don’t get those things in return at all – and I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU lol – from a fair number of people.
Said people, though, also opted to remove themselves from my life. That hurt, a lot, but the thing is, I suppose I should have paid attention to all the warning signs and my own intuition, and cut the ties myself. It might still hurt, but, every day it’s getting easier to find all the reasons why they were not really my friends in the first place.
So, long story short, I’m glad to still count you (and a few select others lol) amongst my friends, because I know that you are a real friend… and I’m learning to count myself blessed where I’ve “lost” the not-so-real friends.
Comment by Shelby (3 comments.) — 05/31/2010 @ 5:11 am